Trudy Goodman

From Trudy

Remembering to Love

“The greatest hazard of all, losing one’s self, can occur so quietly; any other loss – an arm, a leg, five dollars, a wife, etc. – is sure to be noticed.” —Søren Kierkegaard

Right after I turned 22, I became a mom. It took a while to integrate this new reality. I remember having a recurring dream that I’d drive away from the store with all the groceries and forget that I left my baby carefully nestled in the front of the shopping cart. Only much later in the dream would I remember with a sudden panic – I have a baby! I forgot! I left her at the grocery store!

Of course, I never actually did that, but the fear of losing each other haunted me. And sometimes, in another way, we did. As a single working mother, too often i lost myself in busyness and forgetting. I’m grateful that then I learned the practices of mindfulness and loving-kindness. These helped me learn how to be present even when it was hard. Taking time for meditation each day made it easier to remember to love.

How can we forget the most important thing of all – being alive and loving each other? We don’t need a tsunami or fire or war to lose each other; distraction can do it, losing ourselves in our devices or other situations.

Every day, you can remember what’s most important in your life, stopping to breathe and know what that is. Every time we sit down to meditate, we find ourselves again. This is the secret of practice – we remember who we are – whether we feel it or not, our radiant true nature is boundless love.